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June 2020

Support for Young People – Lisa’s Story

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Support for Young People

In these current times of lockdown and increased social isolation, many people’s mental health has taken a down turn. In this article, we want to focus our attention on younger people.

Lisa’s Story

Lisa is a 15-year-old girl, who was like many this year going into her last school year and preparing for her GCSE’s.  Lisa suffered now and again with bouts of anxiety and depression, related especially to her appearance and what her friends thought about her. Being liked by her friends, their opinion of her and fitting in is very important to her, as are the quality of her “selfies” on her social media accounts: (Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram).  Lisa got by without any support and kept things to herself.

Lockdown & Mental Health Down Turn

At the beginning of lockdown, Lisa’s life and routine completely turned upside down, no more school, no more seeing her friends and hanging out, no more retail therapy in her favourite stores, no more going to the cinema.  The things she looked forward to had all been taken away.  She was also concerned about what this period of seemingly never-ending lockdown would do for her school work and end result of her examination results. This was a big concern for her, as she wanted to do well and go on to further education.

As a result of lockdown Lisa found herself spending even more time on screens, (smart phone, tablet games and social media); her routine had completely gone, she would stay up most of the night and sleep most of the morning.  Due to this, the following things had happened:

  • Sleep became very difficult for her (she was getting by on 4 – 5 hours)
  • Her mood became very low and pessimistic
  • She felt completely numb at times
  • Several times a week completely overwhelmed by emotion
  • Life started to feel more unreal
  • She became more frustrated with her mum and dad, arguments were a daily occurrence
  • She started to post negative comments on social media
  • She investigated self-harming

At her lowest mood, Lisa started to self-harm, she used this as way of trying to feel something and as a way of control and even distraction from her negative mood.

Help and Support

One night whilst scrolling through Facebook, Lisa felt completed lost, scaring herself with an episode of cutting a little deeper than she had done previously. She also worried about how she would hide this and explain this cut to her parents.  She thankfully reached out for help and called Darlington Mind’s Young Peoples Listening & Counselling line 07432 843161, where she received phone counselling to work through her difficult emotions.

Seeing Things Differently

This enabled her to start to think differently, instead of comparing herself to her friends and their social media profiles, and being caught up in striving for perfection.  She began to accept things as they are, seeing things from day to day, rather than overall worrying about things she had no control over.

She started to get back into a healthy sleeping routine and limited social media and screen time, especially around bedtime and in the middle of the night.  She has been learning to spend more time with her friends, (Face timing, Whatsapp and Skyping), who bring out the best in her and do not pressurise her for perfectionism in an imperfect world.

She has started to look at other hobbies whilst in lockdown and enjoys being creative, writing short poems and has begun to time manage some schoolwork into her day.

Lisa still has a way to go on her journey, but she is very pleased with the progress she has made over the course of a few weeks.

If you are going through issues similar to Lisa, please don’t suffer alone, we can be that listening ear and help you. Please see contact options below:

Young Peoples Listening & Counselling Support line

Ages 11 to 18 – here to listen and help, non-judgemental, friendly, confidential – call 07432 843161 with confidence (weekdays) or email: crew@darlingtonmind.com

Or other children’s services: childrensservice@darlingtonmind.com

Young people – Overcoming anxiety during the Covid-19 lockdown: – A Guide

Loss and Bereavement Support

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Loss and Bereavement Support

People often say it is never easy to talk about the tough stuff, especially when you are enduring grief around the death of a loved one.  We want you to know that we are here for you to do just that, to help you work through your thoughts, feelings, emotions and issues around dealing with grief.

Kevin’s Story

Take Kevin for example, Kevin was completely lost when he lost his wife Jane of 25 years to cancer.  He knew this was coming as Jane had been battling the illness for several years, but this made it no easier for Kevin to accept when it finally happened.  On Jane’s death, Kevin felt completely numb of any feelings, he felt he could not connect with anyone and was even unable to cry at her funeral.  Kevin felt guilty for feeling like this, for not opening up and even worried that family members and friends maybe thought that he did not really care about losing Jane.

A Complete Change of Life

Kevin’s life and routine had been completely turned upside down; he had been spending many months caring for his wife.  Not only enduring the loss of his wife and best friend, but the loss of routine had also made him feel like his whole world had imploded. After feeling like this for a period of weeks this made Kevin feel very depressed, he had no motivation to do anything, what was the point in anything anymore?

At his lowest mood, Kevin thankfully reached out for help, and called Darlington Mind’s Loss and Bereavement Service, where he received phone counselling to work through his emotions. This enabled him to start to think of a new life, of something to look forward to, and to see some hope for a new chapter of his life.

Brighter Times Ahead

Kevin will never forget the 25 years he spent with his wife Jane.  Whilst the feelings of loss have been tremendous for him, he is now starting to think back of the good times they shared. He has opened up to his family and friends, has also started to engage with some of his old hobbies, in painting, as well as learning about how to use social media and smart phone apps to enable him to better connect with family and friends.

Kevin still has a way to go on his journey through grief; he has good days and occasional bad days, although the bad days are getting less.  He is very pleased with the progress he has made over the course of a few weeks, and has thanked us for our support.

How to Get Help

We want you to know that it is ok if you do not want to talk straight away like Kevin, but when you are ready, we can be that listening ear and help you to work through painful and difficult emotions.

Helpline and counselling service call 07377 910227 (weekdays) or email supportline@darlingtonmind.com

Sleeping Issues and Stress

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In these challenging times, people are concerned about the risks of the Covid 19 infection, often feel isolated, restricted on what they are able to do, lonely, worried about the future and as a result sleeping patterns are often disrupted.

Increased Stress Levels

Many people are experiencing stress and anxiety because of the uncertainty Covid 19 has brought us all. Worries about loved ones, work, income and health sometimes dominate thinking.

Sleeping

Not being able to get to sleep or indeed stay asleep are common as a result of not being able to switch off or relax. Repeated nights of poor sleep will affect anyone and common symptoms include:

  • small decisions seem difficult
  • low mood
  • fatigue
  • irritability
  • forgetfulness
  • difficulty concentrating.

This is not unusual and there are practical things you can do to help address this including:

  1. Keep regular sleep hours
  2. Create a restful sleeping environment
  3. Make sure your bed is comfortable
  4. Exercise regularly
  5. Cut down on caffeine
  6. Do not over-indulge
  7. Do not smoke
  8. Try to relax before going to bed.

How Can We Help You?

Sometimes overcoming and addressing the things that you are worried about is easier said than done.

Darlington Mind is here to help you for just these kind of issues and during tough times it pays to talk to someone to help release the thoughts stuck in your mind.

If you would like some practical advice and support around sleeping issues then get in touch. We can offer you a listening ear, practical advice and access to trained counsellors who have helped a great many other people address their worries and develop the skills and techniques which allow them to get on with their lives.

Follow the link to find our website home page which provides information on a wide range of support services

We look forward to hearing from you on 07572 888084 or via contactus@darlingtonmind.com for Darlington and County Durham and on 01609 780758 or via nyteam@darlingtonmind.com for Hambleton and Richmondshire.